One of the most intimate experiences you can share with your spouse is the act of praying together. This practice not only strengthens the marital bond but also invites the presence of God, fostering spiritual intimacy. As you pray together, you'll find a strong sense of unity and support that not only improves your relationship but also enriches your personal spiritual journeys.
However, there are instances when your spouse might hesitate to engage in this meaningful activity with you.
Here are three common reasons why your spouse may not want to pray with you and how to overcome them. I'm excited to share that these insights are extracted from my new book, titled '7-Day Prayer Challenge: How to Pray with Your Spouse to Create Spiritual Intimacy'.
- Awkwardness. If you are not in the habit of praying with each other, you may feel a little uneasy in the beginning. You may feel a little embarrassed or fumble with your words in prayer but don't worry; that's normal. Just do it, dive in, and let the connection grow
- Unworthiness. Some individuals may feel unworthy or not good enough to pray due to a sense of not measuring up to God's standards. It's crucial to recognize that none of us are inherently good enough to come before the Lord in prayer. We are all sinners saved by the grace of God. Remind your spouse that prayer is an invitation from the Lord, not from you and that it's about inviting him into your marriage. It's not about personal worthiness.
- Pride. There are several types of pride: conceit, superiority, and arrogance. God hates them all (Proverbs 11:2, 16:5, and 16:18). If your spouse seems too proud to pray with you, wait for a better time and wait for a better time to ask. In the meantime, earnestly pray for your spouse's heart to soften.
Keep in mind that when you pray with your spouse, it does not have to be an hour of power. I recommend a minute to win it. A lot can be said in a minute. It could be that your spouse may not want to pray with you because he or she thinks that it will take too long. Address any concerns your spouse may have about time commitment and when you pray together, keep it short and meaningful.
As you embark on the profound journey of praying together with your spouse, remember that this intimate practice not only fortifies the bond between you two but also opens the door to God's presence, which will change everything for the better of your marriage.